🖊️ Who We Want
The Kind of Writers We Are Looking For
We are not looking for professional journalists or academic researchers, though they are more than welcome to apply. We are looking for adults who have something genuinely valuable to say about relationships, intimacy, attraction and the emotional complexity of love.
That might mean you have worked in a field related to mental health, sex education, couples therapy or relationship coaching. It might mean you are simply an adult who has lived, reflected and developed real perspective through your own experiences. Both are valid here.
What matters most to us is that your writing is honest, thoughtful and written with respect for the adult readers who will engage with it. This is an 18+ platform. We do not shy away from sensitive or mature topics but we do expect every contributor to handle them with care, accuracy and genuine intent to help.
If that sounds like you, we would love to hear from you.
💗 Topics We Cover
What You Can Write About
His and Her Secrets covers the full spectrum of adult relationships. Below are the core categories we publish in. Strong pitches within these areas will always get our attention.
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Intimacy and Desire
Most Popular Category
Physical and emotional intimacy in adult relationships. Desire, connection, and what actually deepens closeness between partners over time. Must be written responsibly for adult readers.
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Relationships and Commitment
Always in Demand
Long-term relationships, commitment, trust, boundaries, jealousy, communication breakdowns and the hard work of staying together. Real perspectives on what makes relationships last or fall apart.
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Attraction and Dating
High Reader Interest
The early stages of meeting someone, building attraction, navigating modern dating and understanding what draws people toward each other. Research-backed perspectives welcome.
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Psychology of Love
Research Welcome
The science and psychology behind love, attachment, emotional needs and relationship patterns. Articles that draw from real research and present it in an accessible, engaging way for adult readers.
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Communication and Conflict
Practical Focus
How couples communicate, fight, repair and grow. Articles that give readers practical tools and honest perspectives on the conversations that define a relationship.
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Rebuilding and Moving On
Sensitive, Handled Well
Breakups, separation, grief, healing and starting again. Content in this area must be handled with particular care and a genuine intent to support, not sensationalise.
📋 Our Standards
What Every Submission Must Meet
We hold every piece of content on this site to the same standard, whether it comes from our own team or a guest contributor. Before you pitch or submit, make sure your work meets all of the following.
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Original, Unpublished Work Only
Every article submitted to His and Her Secrets must be completely original and must not have been published anywhere else online or offline. We check every submission. Duplicate or spun content will be declined immediately and the contributor will not be considered again.
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Minimum 1,200 Words, Maximum 2,500
We do not publish thin content. Every article must be substantive enough to genuinely help or inform the reader. Most of our best-performing pieces fall between 1,400 and 2,000 words. Short fluff pieces and excessively long rambling articles will both be declined.
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Factual Claims Must Be Supportable
If you make a factual or statistical claim in your article, you must be able to back it up. You do not need to include inline citations in the article itself, but we may ask for your sources before publication. Do not invent data or misrepresent research findings.
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Respectful, Responsible Tone
This site covers sensitive adult topics. Your writing must treat readers with respect, avoid harmful generalisations and never shame, demean or make light of real emotional pain. Content that is gratuitously explicit, offensive without purpose or written purely to shock will not be published.
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Clear, Well-Structured Writing
Your article must be readable, logically structured and free from obvious grammatical errors. We do light editing on accepted pieces but we will not rewrite a poorly drafted article. Write as if your reader is an intelligent adult who deserves your best effort.
🚫 Not Accepted
Content We Will Not Publish
To keep this site a trusted and responsible space for adult readers, there are clear categories of content we will not accept under any circumstances. Please review this before submitting.
Declined
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Previously Published Content
Anything published elsewhere will be declined. This includes content posted on personal blogs, Medium, LinkedIn or any other platform. Repurposed or lightly rewritten pieces are not acceptable.
Declined
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Purely Promotional Writing
Articles written primarily to promote a product, service, brand or personal business will not be published as editorial content. If you want to promote something commercially, please use our advertising page instead.
Declined
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Generic or AI-Generated Filler
Thin, generic articles with no original insight or perspective. Content that reads like it was produced quickly to fill a word count. AI-assisted drafts are permitted but the final piece must reflect genuine human thought and expertise.
Declined
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Harmful or Irresponsible Content
Content that promotes manipulation, coercion or psychologically harmful behaviour in relationships. Articles that shame readers, demean any gender or present abusive dynamics as acceptable or desirable will never be published here.
🚀 How to Submit
The Submission Process, Step by Step
We keep the process simple and straightforward. Here is exactly what happens from the moment you reach out to us to the moment your article goes live on the site.
The Submission Process
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Send us a pitch via our contact page. Include your proposed title, a two to three sentence summary of the article and a brief note about why you are the right person to write it. Do not send a full draft at this stage.
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We review every pitch and respond within 72 hours. If we are interested, we will invite you to submit the full article. If the topic is not a fit, we will tell you that clearly so you can consider other angles.
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Submit your full article as a Google Doc with sharing enabled. Include any notes on sources you used and a short author bio of two to three sentences if you would like a byline on the published piece.
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We review the full article and get back to you within five business days. We may accept it as submitted, request minor edits or, in some cases, decline with brief feedback. We do not ghost contributors.
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Accepted articles are edited, formatted and scheduled for publication. We will notify you when your piece is live. We do not offer payment for guest contributions at this time, but all published contributors receive a byline and a do-follow backlink to their website or profile.
Ready to Pitch Your Article?
Send us your idea today. We read every pitch personally and respond to all of them. If your idea is a good fit, we will get back to you quickly.
