Answer 18 honest questions across four key areas. Get an instant risk score, category breakdown and a personalized report that tells you exactly where your relationship stands today.
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đŠ 18 Honest Questions
How Healthy Is Your Relationship Really?
This detector checks your relationship across four research backed areas. Answer each question honestly based on how things actually are, not how you wish they were. Your responses are processed entirely in your browser and never sent anywhere.
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Communication
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Trust
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Intimacy
Important: This tool is for self reflection only. It is not a diagnosis. If you feel unsafe, scared or controlled in your relationship, please reach out to a qualified professional or local helpline.
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đŠ Red Flags Identified
đ Green Flags Identified
đĒ What Your Pattern Suggests
đ¯ Suggested Next Steps
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For Self Reflection Only: This result is based on your honest answers to 18 questions and is meant for personal reflection. It is not a diagnosis, a therapist's opinion or a verdict on your relationship. Use it as a starting point for conversation, not a final answer.
đŦ How It Works
What Each Category Measures
Each of the 18 questions belongs to one of four research informed categories. Your final risk score is a weighted average across all four areas.
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Emotional Safety
Whether you feel safe being yourself around your partner. Includes mood patterns, criticism, contempt, validation and how conflict gets resolved emotionally.
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Communication Health
How well you both talk, listen and resolve disagreements. Covers stonewalling, blame patterns, the ability to apologize and how decisions get made together.
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Trust and Respect
Honesty, follow through, financial transparency, respect for boundaries and how the relationship handles outside friendships and personal space.
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Intimacy and Connection
Physical and emotional closeness, affection levels, how needs are expressed and met, and whether the romantic side of the relationship feels mutual and respected.
đŦ FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
No. A score from this quiz is not a reason to end any relationship. It is a starting point for reflection and possibly a conversation. Big life decisions about a relationship deserve time, honest conversation and where useful, professional guidance from a qualified counselor.
The questions are informed by widely accepted relationship research themes such as the four horsemen, attachment patterns and healthy communication markers. That said, this is not a clinical assessment and should not be used as one.
No. Everything runs in your browser. We do not store, transmit or have any access to your answers or your result. Close the tab and it is all gone.
Yes, if you want to. The share button shares the quiz, not your specific score. We deliberately do not generate shareable images of personal results because it could create pressure to overshare private relationship details.
Yes. The quiz works for any romantic relationship you want to reflect on, including past ones, casual dating situations and long term partnerships. Just answer based on that specific person or situation.
That is a brave and self aware question to even ask. The quiz looks at the relationship as a whole, not at who is at fault. Reflecting on your own patterns is one of the healthiest things any partner can do. Consider speaking to a therapist if you want to dig deeper.
â ī¸ Important Disclaimer
The Relationship Red Flag Detector on this page is provided strictly for personal reflection, education and entertainment. It is not a medical test, a psychological assessment, a diagnosis or a substitute for professional advice of any kind.
The questions and scoring are informed by widely discussed relationship research themes, but the result you receive is a general reading based only on the answers you provide. It does not account for your full history, context, culture, mental health, your partner's perspective or any other crucial factor that defines a real relationship.
His and Her Secrets, its owners, authors and affiliates make no representations or warranties of any kind regarding the completeness, accuracy or suitability of the result. By using this tool you accept that any decision you take based on the result is entirely your own responsibility.
If you are experiencing fear, control, manipulation, threats or any form of abuse in your relationship, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional, a domestic violence helpline or trusted authorities in your region. You do not have to face it alone.
This tool does not store, transmit or share any personal information. All calculations and scoring take place locally in your browser.
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